He/She took you for granted, demeaned your
self-esteem and cared a damn about how you felt—and you thought it was fine all
this while. Wake up, and instil in yourself a splodge of self-worth, for no
person in the world has the right to hurt you. If you can’t retort back or be
as harsh as he/she was, at least ignore the person publicly to let him/her know
that you are hurt and have your own way of striking it back. Ignorance is like
a sweet poison—it harms or disturbs the person concerned ceaselessly, but not
explicitly.
Moreover, it gets the message across quite aptly. If
you have been attending to his/her slightest need or requirement, it is time to
sit back and ignore the same. Your simple ignorance would cast a setback and
have him/her wondering as to what went wrong. It is then that realization and
consciousness will draw upon the person. So, whether it is your best friend,
your lover or the-one-that-got-away dude/girl, ignore the person to make
him/her realize your worth and value.
First realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong
with you.
If someone is
not interested in you it is in your best interest to find someone who does love
and adore you for who you are. Know that you are worth it, and there are plenty
of people who will love you. Never
settle for someone who is not treating you and respecting you the way you
deserve. Ask yourself what might be in his head or his heart; it takes two
people to be in a relationship and even though you feel the way that you do,
maybe it was meant to be this way.
Save your love for someone who feels the same way
about you! In my case, I know I deserve better. I tell myself "She isn't
worth my love; she's too “wet behind the ears” to realize what she's doing to me
so I guess that's that." It's not about getting over a person; it's about
feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important
and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it
doesn't really matter.
Curtailed Response
Have you noticed a conversation with an unknown
person is limited to a few seconds or a minute at the max, a sharp contrast to
conversation with those whom you love wherein it stretches for minutes and sometimes,
even hours? If you want to ignore someone you love, the best would be to
curtail the responses as much as restricting to a “hello”, “hmm” and “goodbye”.
Actually, it would be great if you pretend not to
hear him/her or say nothing at least 50% of the times. Your restricted
responses are sure to make the other person feel dumb and keep him/her
wondering about what went wrong. When this happens, be happy about it, for this
was all that you wanted.
The Candid Bitch!
This one’s effective – though I just called it a
candid bitch. Just when the person thinks that you have written him/her off
your diary or nothing can be renewed between the two of you, spare him/her a
candid moment of togetherness. In moments like these, act normally and do
something unusual that you haven’t done for a while, maybe calling him/her by
name, or making an eye-to-eye contact or even passing off a generous smile.
Whatever it is, leave it to being short and sweet or
else the effect of it won’t stay long. These little thrills would make the
person realize and make him/her come back to you for more. Also, this way,
you’ll have an upper hand and not the other way round.
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Tuesday, September 2, 2014